Comments on: In Defense of the Nice Guy http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html Alex's Blog Mon, 22 Mar 2010 14:56:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.2 Comment on In Defense of the Nice Guy by: Mahk http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-232 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:59:59 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-232 I may bitch about being an involuntrarily sexless metrosexualized man on a messagboard post, but I don't think its a getting laid strategy per se. Its just "communicating feelings" which is what is the healthy thing to do. I think there is something inherently adversarial about the whole process, like at some level a woman wants to have her will dominated. "yeah, thanks for being nice, but don't you want to screw me like the bitch I am?" "I'm dissing you. What are you going to do about it?" And its not something women will ever admit to, though some of the strategies they use in testing this could have no other purpose. Women aren't that afraid. Y'all try on emotions like clothes. Just a bitter guys experience. No offense to the female readership intended. I may bitch about being an involuntrarily sexless metrosexualized man on a messagboard post, but I don’t think its a getting laid strategy per se. Its just “communicating feelings” which is what is the healthy thing to do.

I think there is something inherently adversarial about the whole process, like at some level a woman wants to have her will dominated.

“yeah, thanks for being nice, but don’t you want to screw me like the bitch I am?” “I’m dissing you. What are you going to do about it?”

And its not something women will ever admit to, though some of the strategies they use in testing this could have no other purpose.

Women aren’t that afraid. Y’all try on emotions like clothes.

Just a bitter guys experience. No offense to the female readership intended.

]]> Comment on In Defense of the Nice Guy by: KPalicz http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-231 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:59:59 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-231 "I'm glad you are not pining after the psycho-bitch. . ." Just you my dear.... “I’m glad you are not pining after the psycho-bitch. . .”

Just you my dear….

]]> Comment on In Defense of the Nice Guy by: SciVille http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-230 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:59:59 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-230 Psycho-bitches must die!!! :p Psycho-bitches must die!!!

:p

]]> Comment on In Defense of the Nice Guy by: cathy hefferan http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-229 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:59:59 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-229 I'm glad you are not pining after the psycho-bitch. . . I’m glad you are not pining after the psycho-bitch. . .

]]> Comment on In Defense of the Nice Guy by: KPalicz http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-228 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:59:59 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-228 It doesn't make the nice-guy thing a non-issue, it just means there is a nice guy issue AND a nice girl issue. Of that I am increasingly well aware. I'm not pining after the psycho-bitch anyhow. Give me a nice girl any day. I think dating services for nice girls/nice guys need to be set up. It doesn’t make the nice-guy thing a non-issue, it just means there is a nice guy issue AND a nice girl issue. Of that I am increasingly well aware. I’m not pining after the psycho-bitch anyhow. Give me a nice girl any day.

I think dating services for nice girls/nice guys need to be set up.

]]> Comment on In Defense of the Nice Guy by: Sheelzebub http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-227 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:59:59 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-227 There are plenty of nice women who run into the same problem--they have high standards for their behavior and the way they treat others, they are respectful and kind to their boyfriends, etc. only to find themselves passed over for the stereotypical psycho-bitch. Who, ironically, is criticized for not appreciating the nice guy. The nice guy who's mooning after a woman who won't give him the time of day and won't give the nice girl right in front of him a chance. Oddly enough, no one spends lots of time wondering why men seem to prefer psycho bitches. It would be called a sweeping generalization, and dismissed for good reason. It's too bad the same standard can't be applied to the nice-guy non-issue. There are plenty of nice women who run into the same problem–they have high standards for their behavior and the way they treat others, they are respectful and kind to their boyfriends, etc. only to find themselves passed over for the stereotypical psycho-bitch. Who, ironically, is criticized for not appreciating the nice guy. The nice guy who’s mooning after a woman who won’t give him the time of day and won’t give the nice girl right in front of him a chance. Oddly enough, no one spends lots of time wondering why men seem to prefer psycho bitches. It would be called a sweeping generalization, and dismissed for good reason. It’s too bad the same standard can’t be applied to the nice-guy non-issue.

]]> Comment on In Defense of the Nice Guy by: SciVille http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-226 Wed, 31 Dec 1969 18:59:59 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/07/in_defense_of_t.html#comment-226 Holy shit, Alex! You really hit on something at the end there, and it's something I feel is present with the genders reversed as well. I know how you feel. It seems like an otherwise perfectly fine girl would be attracted to some loser who would not treat her well at all and would not appreciate her, etc. That is annoying as hell. Similar holds true for guys, as I have noticed. Otherwise perfectly fine guys don't seem all that interested in the sweet, perfectly fine girl who respects herself, would respect him, and would treat him as an equal. Rather, one by one, I see these guys opt for the loser slut, often for no other reason than to lose their virginities, but some "first time" attachment lingers, and they're stuck with this bitch. I don't understand it. Sure, sex, I know. But it's really self-deprecating and just plain sucks. Once a guy did that shit, I sure has hell wouldn't be interested in him. But yeah. Nice guys rule. Nice girls rule. They especially rule when they find each other.:) Wow, Alex! I got off on a rant on your blog. You should be proud.;) Holy shit, Alex! You really hit on something at the end there, and it’s something I feel is present with the genders reversed as well. I know how you feel. It seems like an otherwise perfectly fine girl would be attracted to some loser who would not treat her well at all and would not appreciate her, etc. That is annoying as hell. Similar holds true for guys, as I have noticed. Otherwise perfectly fine guys don’t seem all that interested in the sweet, perfectly fine girl who respects herself, would respect him, and would treat him as an equal. Rather, one by one, I see these guys opt for the loser slut, often for no other reason than to lose their virginities, but some “first time” attachment lingers, and they’re stuck with this bitch. I don’t understand it. Sure, sex, I know. But it’s really self-deprecating and just plain sucks. Once a guy did that shit, I sure has hell wouldn’t be interested in him.

But yeah. Nice guys rule. Nice girls rule. They especially rule when they find each other.:)

Wow, Alex! I got off on a rant on your blog. You should be proud.;)

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