Comments on: My Dancing Polemic http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html Alex's Blog Fri, 29 Aug 2008 05:17:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.2 Comment on My Dancing Polemic by: Kat http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html#comment-167 Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html#comment-167 Alex (and others), Dancing is only sexual if you make it so. I've been dancing since I could walk. Started ballet classes when I was six, jazz when I was 10, and modern when I was 15. I try to go to clubs with my female friends at least once every couple of weeks for one sole purpose: I like it. Dancing isn't sexual for me. Never has been. Yes, there are times when there is a sexual aspect to dancing. But that only happens when I'm with my boyfriend. Mostly it's just an expression of how I feel. If I'm overly emotional, I hit a goth or industrial club. If I'm bouncy and happy, I hit a techno club. If I just feel like being able to use my body the way it was made, I hit up a hip-hop club. It's all about the emotion. Dancing has very little to do with sex and everything to do with emotion. Alex (and others),

Dancing is only sexual if you make it so. I’ve been dancing since I could walk. Started ballet classes when I was six, jazz when I was 10, and modern when I was 15. I try to go to clubs with my female friends at least once every couple of weeks for one sole purpose:

I like it.

Dancing isn’t sexual for me. Never has been. Yes, there are times when there is a sexual aspect to dancing. But that only happens when I’m with my boyfriend. Mostly it’s just an expression of how I feel. If I’m overly emotional, I hit a goth or industrial club. If I’m bouncy and happy, I hit a techno club. If I just feel like being able to use my body the way it was made, I hit up a hip-hop club.

It’s all about the emotion. Dancing has very little to do with sex and everything to do with emotion.

]]> Comment on My Dancing Polemic by: SciVille http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html#comment-166 Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html#comment-166 Damn, Ken! LOL Anyway, Alex, I agree on the whole reducing the beauty of the real thing. Lots of things are like that, and it's sad. Although, just keep that from happening to yourself. I hate to dance, though. I look stupid (and thus reserve it for when I'm by myself and a good song comes on and I'm in an exceptionally good mood, LOL). I get these guys who think I'd dance well, but they base that entirely on the fact that I'm a girl. *roll eyes* Damn, Ken! LOL

Anyway, Alex, I agree on the whole reducing the beauty of the real thing. Lots of things are like that, and it’s sad. Although, just keep that from happening to yourself.

I hate to dance, though. I look stupid (and thus reserve it for when I’m by myself and a good song comes on and I’m in an exceptionally good mood, LOL). I get these guys who think I’d dance well, but they base that entirely on the fact that I’m a girl. *roll eyes*

]]> Comment on My Dancing Polemic by: Anduwaithe http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html#comment-165 Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html#comment-165 Alright, this is my last comment, I promise: I can see now that the sexual promiscuity charge was directed specifically at people who go out clubbing for the sole purpose of picking up sex partners, not necessarily those who dance for the fun, exercise, and socialization of it. I don't really know what kind of dancing you had in mind when you suggested that it causes desensitization to intimacy/romance, so I'll just keep quiet about that one. I apologize for reacting so harshly; it's just that dance used to be a very integral part of my life, and hearing you suggest that people who engage in it are somehow "bad" or "wrong" (whether that was what your intention or not) was very upsetting for me, at least initially. I hope our professional relationship hasn't been strained or damaged over this. Alright, this is my last comment, I promise: I can see now that the sexual promiscuity charge was directed specifically at people who go out clubbing for the sole purpose of picking up sex partners, not necessarily those who dance for the fun, exercise, and socialization of it. I don’t really know what kind of dancing you had in mind when you suggested that it causes desensitization to intimacy/romance, so I’ll just keep quiet about that one. I apologize for reacting so harshly; it’s just that dance used to be a very integral part of my life, and hearing you suggest that people who engage in it are somehow “bad” or “wrong” (whether that was what your intention or not) was very upsetting for me, at least initially. I hope our professional relationship hasn’t been strained or damaged over this.

]]> Comment on My Dancing Polemic by: Anduwaithe http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html#comment-164 Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html#comment-164 Okay, okay, maybe I'm being a bit harsh. I just don't take kindly to being told that I'm sexually promiscuous and romantically desensitized just because I love and enjoy dancing. Okay, okay, maybe I’m being a bit harsh. I just don’t take kindly to being told that I’m sexually promiscuous and romantically desensitized just because I love and enjoy dancing.

]]> Comment on My Dancing Polemic by: Anduwaithe http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html#comment-163 Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html#comment-163 Alex, you may or may not realize this, but I used to be a competitive latin and ballroom dancer. Frankly, I find this rant to be disgusting. You've just lost a lot of the respect I once had for you. Alex, you may or may not realize this, but I used to be a competitive latin and ballroom dancer. Frankly, I find this rant to be disgusting. You’ve just lost a lot of the respect I once had for you.

]]> Comment on My Dancing Polemic by: Jess http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html#comment-162 Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://oneandfour.org/archives/2005/04/my_dancing_pole.html#comment-162 Awesome rant. Now I don't agree with you about some of the aspects of dancing, but you're entitled to your opinion, and you express it well. :) Awesome rant. Now I don’t agree with you about some of the aspects of dancing, but you’re entitled to your opinion, and you express it well. :)

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